CARING FAMILY
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Caring Family is a program that I developed and recorded in a studio for the benefit of parents wanting to prepare their older child/children for the birth of a new baby or to help the older child/children to adjust after the baby has been born.
The program consists of 4 CD's:
* Hints for parents
Even during pregnancy there are certain steps that can be taken to help the older child adjust to the addition of a new baby, such as games the parents could play with the child or projects they could do together. I also discuss preparing the child for his mother’s stay in hospital and her return home with a new baby, and give some advice on how to handle jealousy and physical aggression. This CD also explains how the various CD’s are used in combination to cover the whole program content.
* Guidance and relaxation aids for the parents
Music is used to support the parents and help them to relax, and certain principles that could be very valuable in child rearing are presented.
* Bedtime stories
Provision is made for two different age groups (juniors and seniors – you will have to listen to the stories and decide which category your child falls into). The stories have been developed through working with children in my practice over many years, especially children from families that have recently welcomed a new baby. Always listen to a story (any story) by yourself before deciding whether it is right for your child. The stories give an account of how various animals experienced the addition of a new baby to the family, and how they dealt with and adjusted to the situation.
*The fourth CD contains a PDF document with all the hints from CD1 so that you have these in writing as well. There is also a picture that you can print and put up against the wall in your children’s room. The words of the theme song are on this CD so that you and your child can enjoy singing it together!
The package can be ordered from me at CONTACT at a cost of R350.
It is also available in English.
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A testimonial from a mother who relates how the package made a big difference to her family
"It was a great shock to discover that I was pregnant again. My eldest daughter was only eight months old and now another little miracle was on the way! I remember telling another mother at the postnatal class that I thought it was a good thing that they were so close together. Her reply was: “Yes, it may be a good thing because you don’t know what’s waiting for you.” This was the truth and no mistake. Little did I know what kind of a metamorphosis a two-year-old undergoes and I did not realise that jealousy could have a place in such a small body. My eldest daughter was very jealous of her little sister and she did not know how to handle all these new emotions. Their mother did not always know how to handle the new dynamics between the two sisters. The baby programme offered by Cizelle Louw came to my rescue. I remember the day I first picked up the set of CDs. I was close to tears out of sheer desperation for good advice.
The relaxation exercises helped a great deal during the times when I found my maternal role overwhelming. The stories on the CD helped my children identify with the character who also had a new baby brother. Later on when I had my third child my two eldest had more insight and were able to tell me that they felt just the same way as the character felt when I spent so much time with the new baby. The stories helped them realise that what they were feeling was normal and created an opportunity for us to talk about their feelings.
The baby programme offered me as a mother both guidelines and hope. I realised that other mothers are going through the same process. I would recommend it to any mother with more than one child!"
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Cizelle Louw
Clinical Psychologist for Families
Pretoria
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AFRIKAANS
Caring Family is 'n program wat ek ontwikkel het en in 'n ateljee opgeneem het vir ouers wat hulle ouer kind / kinders wil voorberei op die geboorte van 'n nuwe baba of wanneer die baba reeds gebore is, om die ouer kind / kinders te help met die aanpassing.
Die program bestaan uit 4 CD's:
* Wenke vir ouers.
Reeds tydens die swangerskap kan sekere stappe geneem word om die aanpassing by die nuwe baba te vergemaklik, soos bv speletjies wat met die kind gespeel kan word en projekte wat saam met hom gedoen kan word. Ook voorbereiding vir mamma se verblyf in die hospitaal en haar en baba se tuiskoms, die hantering van jaloesie en fisiese aggressie. Pappa se rol word ook bespreek. Hoe die verskillende CD's as 'n program saam werk word ook op hierdie CD uiteengesit.
* Ouerleiding en ontspanning
Die ouers word begelei met musiek om te ontspan en sekere beginsels wat van groot waarde kan wees in die proses van kindgrootmaak, word oorgedra.
* Slaaptydstories
Daar word vir twee verskillende ouderdormsgroepe voorsiening gemaak (juniors en seniors - jy moet maar luister na die stories en besluit in watter kategorie jou kind val). Die stories is ontwikkel deur baie jare se werk met kinders in my praktyk, veral met kinders wat 'n nuwe baba in die gesin bygekry het. Luister altyd eers self na 'n storie (enige storie) en besluit dan of dit vir jou kind voordelig sal wees. Die stories gaan oor verskillende diere wat 'n nuwe baba in die gesin bygekry het en
hoe elkeen dit verwerk het en daarby aangepas het.
*Die 4de CD het 'n PDF-dokument op met al die wenke van CD1 sodat jy dit ook op skrif het. Daar is ook 'n prentjie wat jy kan print en teen jou kind se muur kan vasplak. Die tema liedjie se woorde is ook op hierdie CD sodat julle en julle kind lekker kan saamsing!
Die pakket kan vanaf KONTAK by my bestel word teen R350.
Dit is ook in Engels beskikbaar.
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'n Getuienis van 'n mamma wat vertel hoe die pakket binne hulle gesin 'n verskil gemaak het
"Groot was my skok toe ek besef ek is weer swanger. My oudste dogtertjie is maar 8 maande oud en nou is hier nog ‘n wonderwerkie oppad! Ek onthou nog toe ek vir ‘n ander mamma by die nageboorte klasse gesê het dat ek dink dit is goed dat hulle so naby aan mekaar is. Haar woorde aan my was: “Ja miskien is dit goed want jy weet nie wat nog voorlê nie.” Dit was sulke waar woorde. Min het ek geweet watter metamorfose ‘n tweejarige ondergaan en ek het nie besef dat jaloesie deel van so ‘n klein lyfie kan wees nie. My oudste dogterjie was baie jaloers op haar sussie en sy het nie geweet hoe om al die nuwe emosies te hanteer nie. Hulle mamma het ook nie elke dag geweet hoe om die nuwe dinamika tussen die twee sussies te hanteer nie. Die baba program van Cizelle Louw het tot my redding gekom. Ek onthou die dag toe ek die CD stel in my hand vas gehou het. Ek was naby aan trane want ek was so desperaat vir goeie raad.
Die ontspanningsoefeninge het vir my as ma baie gehelp wanneer ek oorweldig gevoel het. Die stories op die CD het my kinders gehelp om te identifiseer met die karakter wat ook ‘n nuwe baba boetie gekry het. Later met my derde kind kon my twee oudstes met meer begrip vertel dat hulle ook soos die karakter voel wanneer ek so baie tyd aan die nuwe baba spandeer. Die stories het hulle gehelp om te besef dat wat hulle voel normaal is en dit het ons die geleentheid gegee om daaroor te praat.
Die baba program het my as ma riglyne en hoop gegee. Ek het besef daar is ander mammas wat deur dieselfde proses gaan. Ek sal dit aanbeveel vir enige mamma wat meer as een kind het!"
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Cizelle Louw
Kliniese Sielkundige vir Families, Pretoria
Caring Family is a program that I developed and recorded in a studio for the benefit of parents wanting to prepare their older child/children for the birth of a new baby or to help the older child/children to adjust after the baby has been born.
The program consists of 4 CD's:
* Hints for parents
Even during pregnancy there are certain steps that can be taken to help the older child adjust to the addition of a new baby, such as games the parents could play with the child or projects they could do together. I also discuss preparing the child for his mother’s stay in hospital and her return home with a new baby, and give some advice on how to handle jealousy and physical aggression. This CD also explains how the various CD’s are used in combination to cover the whole program content.
* Guidance and relaxation aids for the parents
Music is used to support the parents and help them to relax, and certain principles that could be very valuable in child rearing are presented.
* Bedtime stories
Provision is made for two different age groups (juniors and seniors – you will have to listen to the stories and decide which category your child falls into). The stories have been developed through working with children in my practice over many years, especially children from families that have recently welcomed a new baby. Always listen to a story (any story) by yourself before deciding whether it is right for your child. The stories give an account of how various animals experienced the addition of a new baby to the family, and how they dealt with and adjusted to the situation.
*The fourth CD contains a PDF document with all the hints from CD1 so that you have these in writing as well. There is also a picture that you can print and put up against the wall in your children’s room. The words of the theme song are on this CD so that you and your child can enjoy singing it together!
The package can be ordered from me at CONTACT at a cost of R350.
It is also available in English.
***
A testimonial from a mother who relates how the package made a big difference to her family
"It was a great shock to discover that I was pregnant again. My eldest daughter was only eight months old and now another little miracle was on the way! I remember telling another mother at the postnatal class that I thought it was a good thing that they were so close together. Her reply was: “Yes, it may be a good thing because you don’t know what’s waiting for you.” This was the truth and no mistake. Little did I know what kind of a metamorphosis a two-year-old undergoes and I did not realise that jealousy could have a place in such a small body. My eldest daughter was very jealous of her little sister and she did not know how to handle all these new emotions. Their mother did not always know how to handle the new dynamics between the two sisters. The baby programme offered by Cizelle Louw came to my rescue. I remember the day I first picked up the set of CDs. I was close to tears out of sheer desperation for good advice.
The relaxation exercises helped a great deal during the times when I found my maternal role overwhelming. The stories on the CD helped my children identify with the character who also had a new baby brother. Later on when I had my third child my two eldest had more insight and were able to tell me that they felt just the same way as the character felt when I spent so much time with the new baby. The stories helped them realise that what they were feeling was normal and created an opportunity for us to talk about their feelings.
The baby programme offered me as a mother both guidelines and hope. I realised that other mothers are going through the same process. I would recommend it to any mother with more than one child!"
***
Cizelle Louw
Clinical Psychologist for Families
Pretoria
***
AFRIKAANS
Caring Family is 'n program wat ek ontwikkel het en in 'n ateljee opgeneem het vir ouers wat hulle ouer kind / kinders wil voorberei op die geboorte van 'n nuwe baba of wanneer die baba reeds gebore is, om die ouer kind / kinders te help met die aanpassing.
Die program bestaan uit 4 CD's:
* Wenke vir ouers.
Reeds tydens die swangerskap kan sekere stappe geneem word om die aanpassing by die nuwe baba te vergemaklik, soos bv speletjies wat met die kind gespeel kan word en projekte wat saam met hom gedoen kan word. Ook voorbereiding vir mamma se verblyf in die hospitaal en haar en baba se tuiskoms, die hantering van jaloesie en fisiese aggressie. Pappa se rol word ook bespreek. Hoe die verskillende CD's as 'n program saam werk word ook op hierdie CD uiteengesit.
* Ouerleiding en ontspanning
Die ouers word begelei met musiek om te ontspan en sekere beginsels wat van groot waarde kan wees in die proses van kindgrootmaak, word oorgedra.
* Slaaptydstories
Daar word vir twee verskillende ouderdormsgroepe voorsiening gemaak (juniors en seniors - jy moet maar luister na die stories en besluit in watter kategorie jou kind val). Die stories is ontwikkel deur baie jare se werk met kinders in my praktyk, veral met kinders wat 'n nuwe baba in die gesin bygekry het. Luister altyd eers self na 'n storie (enige storie) en besluit dan of dit vir jou kind voordelig sal wees. Die stories gaan oor verskillende diere wat 'n nuwe baba in die gesin bygekry het en
hoe elkeen dit verwerk het en daarby aangepas het.
*Die 4de CD het 'n PDF-dokument op met al die wenke van CD1 sodat jy dit ook op skrif het. Daar is ook 'n prentjie wat jy kan print en teen jou kind se muur kan vasplak. Die tema liedjie se woorde is ook op hierdie CD sodat julle en julle kind lekker kan saamsing!
Die pakket kan vanaf KONTAK by my bestel word teen R350.
Dit is ook in Engels beskikbaar.
***
'n Getuienis van 'n mamma wat vertel hoe die pakket binne hulle gesin 'n verskil gemaak het
"Groot was my skok toe ek besef ek is weer swanger. My oudste dogtertjie is maar 8 maande oud en nou is hier nog ‘n wonderwerkie oppad! Ek onthou nog toe ek vir ‘n ander mamma by die nageboorte klasse gesê het dat ek dink dit is goed dat hulle so naby aan mekaar is. Haar woorde aan my was: “Ja miskien is dit goed want jy weet nie wat nog voorlê nie.” Dit was sulke waar woorde. Min het ek geweet watter metamorfose ‘n tweejarige ondergaan en ek het nie besef dat jaloesie deel van so ‘n klein lyfie kan wees nie. My oudste dogterjie was baie jaloers op haar sussie en sy het nie geweet hoe om al die nuwe emosies te hanteer nie. Hulle mamma het ook nie elke dag geweet hoe om die nuwe dinamika tussen die twee sussies te hanteer nie. Die baba program van Cizelle Louw het tot my redding gekom. Ek onthou die dag toe ek die CD stel in my hand vas gehou het. Ek was naby aan trane want ek was so desperaat vir goeie raad.
Die ontspanningsoefeninge het vir my as ma baie gehelp wanneer ek oorweldig gevoel het. Die stories op die CD het my kinders gehelp om te identifiseer met die karakter wat ook ‘n nuwe baba boetie gekry het. Later met my derde kind kon my twee oudstes met meer begrip vertel dat hulle ook soos die karakter voel wanneer ek so baie tyd aan die nuwe baba spandeer. Die stories het hulle gehelp om te besef dat wat hulle voel normaal is en dit het ons die geleentheid gegee om daaroor te praat.
Die baba program het my as ma riglyne en hoop gegee. Ek het besef daar is ander mammas wat deur dieselfde proses gaan. Ek sal dit aanbeveel vir enige mamma wat meer as een kind het!"
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Cizelle Louw
Kliniese Sielkundige vir Families, Pretoria
